Preparing for Mediation

Preparing for mediation will look slightly different depending on the matter at hand. That said, there are a few important steps you can take leading up to the mediation that will help to ensure you get the most out of the process.

1. Know your rights and entitlements

In order to get the most out of mediation, it’s integral to educate yourself about your legal rights and entitlements under family law. Having as much information as possible will empower you to advocate for your interests effectively during mediation. I strongly advise seeking independent legal advice from a qualified family law attorney to ensure you're fully informed about your rights and options before entering into mediation.

2. Understand your financial situation

A comprehensive understanding of your financial situation, including assets, liabilities, income, and expenses is imperative in coming to an equitable settlement. This knowledge is essential for negotiating fair financial settlements and child support arrangements. Consider consulting with a financial advisor or accountant to help you assess your financial standing and identify any potential areas of concern or opportunity for negotiation.

3. Compile relevant documentation

Gather all pertinent documents related to your family or divorce matters. This includes financial records such as bank statements, tax returns, property deeds, and investment portfolios. In the event that custody is involved, gather documentation regarding your child's school, medical records, and any existing parenting plans or agreements. Having these documents organized and readily accessible will streamline discussions and provide clarity during mediation sessions.

4. Practice effective communication

Respectful and open dialogue is the cornerstone of a successful mediation. Commit to active listening, express yourself clearly and respectfully, and be open to acknowledging the perspectives of others. Avoid confrontational or accusatory language, and focus on articulating your needs and interests constructively. Effective communication fosters collaboration and promotes the development of mutually acceptable solutions.

5. Identify your "non-negotiables" and areas for compromise:

Leading up to the first joint session, It can be helpful to identify your non-negotiable priorities as well as areas where you're willing to compromise. While you should absolutely stand firm on issues that are critically important to you, be prepared to make concessions on matters less significant to you in order to facilitate agreement and see the mediation progress. Be honest about your goals and priorities and be prepared to communicate them clearly during mediation sessions.

6. Lean on your support system:

Maintaining a strong support system is crucial when navigating the emotional challenges of family mediation. Seek support from friends, family members, or support groups who can offer empathy, encouragement, and perspective throughout the process. I strongly encourage engaging the services of a therapist or counsellor to help you manage stress, process emotions around particularly distressing conversations, and your mental health during this challenging time.